What Have You Surrendered to Accommodation?

This afternoon was quiet in a way it rarely is in our home of two teens, two adults, and one needy geriatric dog. I decided it was a good time to sit by the fire and watch a movie - one I’d been wanting to see for ages, but it just never seemed like the right time (the 2019 Little Women, directed by Greta Gerwig).

As I sat there watching this little gem of a movie, I couldn’t stop crying. Not just in the moving scenes, but honestly, just throughout the whole movie, and I wondered what was going on. 

I realized that I used to watch movies like this all the time. I love a well-done historical drama. I love stories told by women that focus as much on the relationships happening inside families as they do on romance. I love the clothes, the pastoral scenes, and the candle-light. I love imagining a world so quiet.

So why hadn’t I watched a movie like this in so long?

No one asked me to set aside the things I love. At no point did I say “I’m going to stop watching movies I love if no one else is interested”. But that’s exactly what I did. 

I got so used to accommodating and considering the needs and wishes of my family that I quietly stopped choosing myself in this one small way.

I surrendered an important part of myself - something I love - to accommodate the wishes of my family. And I did it without even realizing it had happened.

And it made me wonder… what other parts of me have become too small and too quiet. 

What lies dormant within you waiting to be expressed or loved again?

Rediscovering yourself is such an important part of the ongoing work we do.

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