Head Trash vs. Affirmation

One day I was talking to my therapist about how down I was on myself, and she said something along the lines of “You have got to stop letting this head trash go unchallenged!”.

She was calling me out on all the negative thoughts I was having about myself and challenged me to get back in touch with my power, mojo, and Nikki-ness.

Sometimes we get caught up in all our own head-trash - whatever that may sound like for you. Some good/awful examples are:

• I’m not good enough.

• I’m stupid.

• I’ll never be able to do this.

• I don’t deserve what I want.

• Other people are smarter, better, prettier, luckier, more capable, etc.

• Something is wrong with me.

• It’s hopeless.

• I’m unworthy.

So how do you combat head trash?

There are lots of things that will help, but first, it’s important to counter it.

You have a part of you talking shit to you frequently, and it may be impossible to completely shut that off. But you can counter it with a voice telling you that you’re worthy. That you deserve to take up space. That your voice is important! That you ARE capable. That THINGS may be tough right now, but that doesn’t mean YOU suck.

Think about it this way… if one of your friends were telling you all these negative thoughts they had about themselves, what would you say to them? “Girl, that’s crazy! Think of all the amazing things you’ve done! You’re a badass!” You would be the voice countering all her head trash. You would remind her of who she really is underneath all that self-loathing. Affirmations are just you being a good friend to yourself.

So my therapist challenged me to think of a time when I felt powerful and I immediately thought of this picture that my mom must have taken when I was five or six. My dad was building a playhouse for me and I was standing there in this very Wonder Woman pose, hands on my hips, surveying my domain. My partner always laughs at this picture and says "That’s 100% you, bossing your dad”.

That little Nikki was very much in her power.

So my homework that week was to print out that picture and set an alarm for three times a day to affirm myself. That I am strong. That I’m capable. That I’ve got this. That I deserve to take up space.

Ready to step back into your own power? Ready to dial down your own head trash?

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