Grief is Supposed to Hurt

This sounds so obvious, doesn’t it? 

But I think it’s worth saying. 

Grief is supposed to hurt. 

I wrote in an earlier post about the depth of our pain in grief being in proportion to the depth of our love for the one we’re missing. 

But we also live in a culture that celebrates positivity and being tough, resilient, and “bouncing back”. 

Which can all feel incredibly invalidating when you’re hurting so deeply. 

No one gets to skip the grief they feel when they lose someone they love.

It can be a relief to remember that there is no right way to grieve. There is no magic formula that will allow you to skip over the pain of your loss and just “get back to normal”. 

It is normal to be sad. To miss your lost loved one. Grief looks a lot like depression, but there’s a reason for you’re feeling this way and in order to move through it, you have to allow yourself the time and space to feel all the feelings - even when they get really messy. 

You are supposed to be a mess. 

Although there is no shortcut through grief, it can be helpful to get some extra support. 

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